I am in such awe at the generosity of others and my husband during these first days at home with Henry. The outpouring of love and offers of help is blessing my heart so much. We have had several folks dropping meals by and our church family is going to bring meals for two weeks. Lots of gifts and folks just wanting to come over and meet our little bundle. My husband has a construction company so he is home a lot more at this time due to the weather. He has been doing dishes, taking care of our toddler and allowing me to enjoy long naps. Man, I love that guy!
I can not even begin to describe how this all touches me. To be treated just like all other new Mommas means so much. Adoptive Mommies want to experience all the same things all Mommies want to and one of our fears is that we never will. One of the things that hurts us most is to hear the words “Real Child” or to have someone say their “Real Mother” or even to just call her their “Mother”. Once this precious child is placed in our arms and we look into those sweet little eyes, every thing becomes “Real”. Oh, and believe me once we are getting up at 3 am and operating on 2 hours sleep a day, it all becomes very “Real”!
In no way am I saying that Adoptive Mommies do not hold respect for the “Birthmother” of their child. After all, she gave birth to and choose life for this precious angel. How could you not have anything but respect for that when she did not have to choose life, she did not have to choose adoption and she did not have to choose you. We did not have the opportunity to meet Henry’s “Birthmother” but she will always be respected and loved by us and prayed for every single day for the rest of our lives. Samuel’s “Birthmother” is a very strong and awesome young lady and a huge part of our hearts. She made me a Mommy for the first time and for that I will always be grateful. There are no words to describe what I feel for these women, there are simply no words.
So thank you for all the love and all the well wishes, I am very touched. I know that my husband is as well. He is so proud of his boys and already planning fishing and camping trips for when they are older. There is just something about Henry that melts your heart. Maybe it is his tiny size and the time of year that it is but he just seems to be bringing so much joy to everyone, even his big brother Sammy. Life around here has become very “Real” and is truly the best Christmas any of us have ever had. Henry is a precious reminder of how a tiny infant brought love into this world and came to give us all “Real” life. May you all experience the true joy of Christmas and find “Real” life through Christ Jesus.
Blessings & Merry Christmas
5 things- good friends, Birthmothers, fireplaces, chocolate covered pretzels & Love
This is during our first moments of meeting Henry. Only 22 seconds because we both wanted to look more closely at him.